Hypocrisy.
So here it is, the one you all have been waiting for! Boy is this going to be fun!!! But first a question: Why is it so easy for people, particularly Christians, to admit they’re “sinners” but so hard for them to acknowledge their hypocrisy ? And here’s secondary question: Why do those who aren’t Christians prefer to blame other people for hypocrisy but usually deny the even the term “sinner.”
It’s a tough subject; rather controversial. I think asking questions like that is a good way to raise tempers and make people not want to talk to you for a while for sure.
One of my favorite movies is “Tombstone,” and Doc Holliday is classic. He constantly calls himself a hypocrite, at one point admitting that it “knows no bounds.” But at the end of the movie, on his death bed, he also says the line I like best, “My hypocrisy only goes so far.” I think this transparency is refreshing and probably causes lots of people to like the guy. You see, understanding that you don’t always do what you say you want to do is an important first step to actually doing something to change your ways.
Another great line comes from Zig Ziglar who says that when he asks people to go to church with him, they respond, “I don’t want to go to church, there’s nothing but hypocrites there,” to which Zig replies, “That’s alright, we got room for one more!”
The bottom line is that EVERYBODY does things that are contrary to what they say, we just call their hypocrisy by another name:”they have issues,” “they made a mistake,” “they need help.” Whatever you want to label it, they’re all the same: saying one thing, doing another… It’s called hypocrisy.
So whether you’re hypocrisy knows no bounds, or only goes so far, may the Lord help us all reject the hypocritical ways, because no body wants to be called a hypocrite, even though at some point, we all are one.
peace,
Adam
Full disclosure: I seriously thought about changing the title of this supposed to “I am a hypocrite.” Because many times my hypocrisy knows no bounds, although I say it only goes so far. One of my favorite ways to disarm an accuser is to admit this. You see, I am a bigger hypocrite because I know so clearly what I am supposed to do. But like I said, the first step to eliminating hypocrisy is to admit it. And that’s why I look forward to writing this post for all the world to see. Because just how far my hypocrisy goes gets shortened through each confession.
Why Caring is SO Important (Pt 1)
Here’s another cliche, and although 3 days ago I said I don’t like cliche’s, this one is hard not to like: “People don’t care how much you know till they know how much you care.”
While I hold my 1 month old son, Boaz, as he fixes his eyes on mine, I have strong feelings of caring for him. I have to constantly support his head and I try to make him comfortable so he doesn’t fuss… I also have to teach my 5 year old warrior, Gideon, how important it is to handle the baby with care.
It’s pretty obvious why infants need such care: they’re helpless, have many needs, they’re small and really don’t know very much. What is probably not so obvious is how much care is needed in other areas of our lives, specifically relationships. I think all relationships start in an infant like stage. Some infants grow faster than others – (shoot, Bo’s in 3 month old clothes, while G’s still fitting in clothes that some 3 year olds can wear!) Of course some relationships grow faster than others, but even those require lots of care. I believe the amount of caring one does for a relationship has a direct impact on how fast it grows…
I don’t think many of us adults realize just how child-like some areas of our lives are. But even in adulthood we experience one stage of infant-hood after another: from marriage to buying a house, to having kids… These kinds of things take a lot of caring!
Perhaps there are relationships in your life that could use a little more TLC, and I hope this helps you realize just how important that caring is!
Tomorrow I’ll share how this applies to the most significant relationship we could ever have.
Peace,
Adam
Here’s a photo of Boaz, the look on his face says: “Please care for me” as Gideon’s stands on the couch getting ready to jump on us! (those are Giddy’s feet)
Importance Continued…
I’ve delayed posting this entry, which is quite ironic actually… Its on the importance of timely communication – basically, replying quickly…
I have a theory I call “the half-life of a response.” I believe that if someone (an average individual) does not reply to a message (email, text, phone call, etc.) within 24 hours, the chances that he will reply go down 50%. The theory continues with a 50% reduction in reply likelihood every 24 hours, so by the time 1 week passes, it’s been cut in half 7 times leaving about a 3/4% chance the person is going to respond.
This theory can be applied many ways, from understanding the importance of follow up within 48 hours to realizing the need to reply within the same time frame. Whether it’s business or friendship or family, the message for me is the same: write back right away, then file the message (either in a categorized folder or in the trash!)
Knowing this, maybe next time you send out a mass email and silence is the response you get, you’ll follow up with individual messages instead of wondering why no one replied.
Taking the message to the “next level” is one sure way to keep the comm’s flowing in a timely fashion. If that’s important to you, hopefully this is a useful tool!
Peace,
Adam
Carpe Diem – (Important although cliché)
It’s late but I wanted to post a photo of Gideon with his first fish that he caught at his 5 year birthday party this evening.
We were so “in the moment” that Maria said she didn’t get pictures of all the things she wanted pictures of! She also didn’t get to eat… Both failures on my part that I’ll have to keep in mind for next time, but I got caught up in all the catching up with friends too! What an awesome bonus to throwing your kid a party! You get to hang out with all your friends while he plays!!! Plenty of hands to hold Boaz too…
Thank you to everyone who came out, it was truly a blast and the day was seized for sure! I’m not a big fan of cliché’s but I had to continue my use of “C” words in the importance theme.
I was going to post on timely communication today, but cherishing the celebration, counting another year gone by on the calendar definitely trumped that!
Look for Maria’s pictures on her blog soon!
Peace,
Adam
You can see Maria in this one- it’s probably the only photo that we got of her, boy did I blow it! She looked AMAZING! (as always of course) Next time! I promise babe, I’ll be all over it! Catching the day on film while we seize the carp!
Systematic Evangelism Pt 2: Process NOT Program
My friend’s 3 part plan for sharing the Good News continued with this key fact: evangelism is not a program, it is a process. See the image on the left, it’s a process, the one on the right – those are programs… Ok, sorry, I like cool charts like that, but I digress…
Have any of you seen anybody else get these backwards? If you haven’t, I don’t think you’ve really been looking! Almost everywhere I look in the church and in ministries, I see programs for this “study” or that “need.” I get it, programs are helpful, but for crying out loud, where does it end??? When will the leadership realize that no matter how many programs they put into practice, the people will only participate while the program is in effect? The goal isn’t just participation either – granted, that’s much better than observation – but what the church really needs is self-initiating individuals, who will do the work of an evangelist while they’re on their own whether at work, home, or on vacation!
Why do we differentiate between “evangelical churches” and “evangelists,” when every single Believer has a scriptural mandate to be about this work? (2 Tim 4:2-5) Why do we wait for the church to do a food drive before we give food? Why do we wait for VBS to teach our kids about Jesus? And why do we wait for the offering plate to be passed before we give money?
Like I said, there’s nothing inherently wrong with programs that give structure to an organization, but there is a vital need for belonging and ownership in this faith, and this takes the process of a walk that a temporary program simply cannot meet. The key to remember here is that programs are here today and gone tomorrow, but processes take time, sometimes a lifetime!
I pray for the progress of your process throughout all programs, people! And thanks for reading.
Peace,
Adam
PS: this post probably comes across with a more frustrated tone with all the questions, but I hope people don’t read too much into this. Many believers and churches have the process down cold, and I am happy to see it, even though I might sound upset about the programatic approach of others…
PSS: Full disclosure: believe me, not many people have more programs than I do, it’s just a balance and a perspective that I’m getting at here…
Systematic Evangelism Pt 1: Seeing as God Sees
The next 3 posts will come from a conversation I had with a fellow Believer during lunch a few months ago. He shared these three points on evangelism in a clear and concise way, and I shared them with a few others over the past months so that I would remember them… making them relevant, right???
The first point is that everyone has value to God and therefore they should have value to me. The pastor of Elevation Church made a comment a few sermons back that “we have to say what God says until we see what God sees!” I truly believe that, and I’ve definitely experienced it in my life. But in the past, I’ve walked by many people without recognizing their full value, or I simply didn’t see as much value in them as I did in someone else… But God values everyone! He’s not partial; scriptures say “He’s not a respecter of persons.” (Acts 10:24 KJV)
So that’s basically it for this first part of the evangelism system. We must line our eyes up with God’s eyes and see that everyone we meet has eternal significance. The clerk at the grocery store is important enough to give some words of encouragement as you check out. The waitress at your favorite restaurant is more valuable than a 15% tip, even of the service is crummy. Your friends are worth more than a “happy birthday” message on the face book wall. your family deserves more than your disengaged presence while the TV or iPhone or iPad captivates you!!!
I entered the iStuff in that last one for me, because I’m preaching to myself more than anyone else!
Peace,
Adam
A System That Saves
I thought about adding some thoughts on yesterday’s blog about saving the important emails and letters you receive, but my wife cautioned me not to because it would be contradictory and detract from the point I was making. As usual she was right, and I decided to wait till the next day to be a hypocrite. (Boy, I can’t wait to write on hypocrisy, especially mine!)
Obviously since I’m doing this web-log, I believe in hanging on to some things, and if you visited my “man cave” down stairs, you would see the stuff I need to throw out of my closet. If I showed you my desk you’d probably start to question if I practice what I preach! Most days my email inbox is the same way, unless I have recently made the time to go on a deleting spree (like today)… But, of course, I DO think there are messages worth saving so I can draw on them for encouragement, or share them with someone else someday. I probably could use a better system of doing so however. Mail box folders & .pst files are good, but I just haven’t developed the discipline with that system to keep the inbox clean…
As I closed yesterday I mentioned how God deletes our sins, but I wanted to point out today what He does with our lives. (see Psalm 56:8) The wording of “The Message” really resonates with me: “You’ve kept track of my every toss and turn through the sleepless nights, each tear entered into Your ledger, each ache written in Your book.” the NKJV says “put my tears in Your bottle”.
Not only does Jesus Save our lives (see Titus 3:5), but our Father also keeps a record of our pain, and I believe as we pray, there are bowls of incensed being filled in heaven, just like Revelation 5:8 says.
So while my system definitely needs some work, as evidenced by all the clutter, there’s one system that’s perfect, created by the One who lived perfectly, and His is a system that saves!
This is the Good News!!! Please tell somebody who needs to hear it!
Peace,
Adam
System of Deletion
I guess yesterday set the stage for my next theme: systems. So I will approach this systematically, and hopefully start posting at the same time of the day, as my brother recommends.
This is just a tip which I have applied successfully at times, and neglected other times. Basically when you’re done with something, get rid of it. The two key areas of application for this are snail mail and e-mail.
For snail mail, I read here (written 2 years ago) how to open junk mail over the trash can, so its gone immediately and permanently, eliminating wasted time: the 2 seconds I’d spend moving it on my desk or looking at it one last time before throwing it away later…
For e-mail, I’m attampting to apply the same idea, by deleting whatever I’m not going to act on, as well as deleting after I act on it (whether replying, or doing what the email says to do)
There’s lots more from Productivith501, but I just wanted to share those two thoughts, quickly, on systematic deletion to simplify life, and of course, to help redeem the time! Plus, I think it’s cool to remember that is how God deals with our sins when we confess them to Him!
Peace,
Adam
He Gives and Takes Away?
To some, throwing the question mark up there might make the refrain from “Blessed Be Your Name” sound like a Rob Bell question… I do think Rob’s got a lot good ones, but as a friend of mine told me, the problem is that he doesn’t provide very good answers. I hope to part ways here with Rob Bell who most likely has more followers of his twitter than I do.
I posted this question on the Tun Tavern Fellowship FB group page: Why do Christians blame bad things on God? I elaborated on that question and got some great responses! I’ll attempt summarize what I’m proposing here as simply a different way of looking at a verse often quoted when bad things happen… Even in the movie we’re watching: “Soul Surfer” when Bethany is being rushed to the hospital, the mom says repeatedly “Don’t take her.” The movie also starts with the Matt Redman song “Blessed be Your Name.” My point of view on this is different, and I’m not knocking the mom in the movie, I simply feel there’s another, more comforting way to pray, based on a more accurate view of Who gives good, and who takes away the good, knowing that life is good!
So here it is: Job lost everything, He did not curse God or sin, but he did blame God in an ever so subtle way saying, “He gives and takes away.” and the next 30 something chapters contain reasons why God is at fault for Job’s tragedy. Anyone reading this quickly -with the pervasive idea of our culture -will easily overlook that it was Satan who took everything from Job, and what God says here gets twisted as well. It says Satan incited God to destroy Job for no reason. It does not say God destroyed Job… Semantics? I don’t think so, but feel free to disagree. I simply propose that Job’s theology was flawed in verse 21 of chapter 1. And I believe Job 7:20, 12:9, and 16:9 pretty much prove my point, not to mention 3 of the last 4 chapters of the book as God responds. (By the way 16:10 is about Jesus)
My view of God isn’t just framed by the story of Job of course, but also by what Christ says in John 10:10, and verses like James 1:17. I have considered passages presented in the 19 comment FB thread, and will continue to look at them with an open mind. (that thread is now posted below in the comments) To appease the contrarians, I do believe God takes away things He does not consider good that keep us from Him or as a result of our disobedience.
When good is lost – when a loved one passes – I only hope that after reading this, people will be encouraged to think of God as the One receiving them to be with Him and Who will restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25 KJV) When we who are Believers die, we’re going home to be with our Lord, He’s not taking us from our loved ones. There is a thief who comes to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10 again). We must be equipped to do battle with that evil one, (2 Cor 10:3-4) but if we blame God for what Satan does, we’re not just living bad theology, we’re aiding and abetting the enemy!
The Bible says, taste and see that the Lord is good, well, to state the obvious: you gotta taste it to see it! But people can’t taste what they reject before it’s put on their plate, and believe it or not, that’s what starts to happen with a mindset of God taking away the good He’s blessed us with.
In the movie, Carrie Underwood puts it well: “I have to believe that something good is going to come out of this.” But how hard is that to believe when you’re struggling with thoughts that hold God responsible: “He allowed it, He works in mysterious ways, He has a plan that I may not understand…” Those are all well and good, until they start becoming ways to blame Him! How much easier is it to believe the Romans 8:28 outcome when we are convinced of God’s goodness? And anyone who has problems with the word “easy” better take it up with Jesus, because He said His yoke was easy… (Matt 11:30)
Well I went quite long on this one, a bit much for the first level of comm, but I hope it strengthens at least one person’s faith in the goodness of God. That is THE reason I wrote this.
Peace,
Enough Jesus? NEVER!!! But Jesus is ALWAYS Enough!
In the words of the great Rumpelstiltskin, “How’s that for a metaphysical paradox!?!” and by that I mean: a statement that seems self-contradictory or absurd but in reality expresses a possible truth which is concerned with first principles and ultimate grounds, as being, time, or substance.
Sorry, didn’t mean to go all dictionary.com on you, but who really can put into words what metaphysical paradox means, and why use words that people don’t really understand the meaning of, right? I think this concept fits that category though, since you can never have enough Jesus and He’s always enough, and as you dig deeper in scripture, this is blatantly obvious from beginning to end!
I’ve got one more post in mind that pertains to my Savior, and it is quite long, but tonight, I just wanted to pose this thought: Can you ever really get enough of Jesus? And do we believers really live like Jesus is enough? There’s a great song that I really like, and I believe it answers these questions very well, here’s the link.
God bless you all as you go to meet with Jesus tomorrow morning, and may He reveal to you just how much is enough!
Peace,
Adam
PS: I got to hang out with my boy Joe today for some quality “Level 3” time, and I’m looking forward to him dropping down to level 1 and 2 with me here on this blog… He said he would! ( no pressure Joe!)
It Really is ALL about Jesus!
I’ve listened to several sermons by Mark Driscoll, and he has a series titled “It’s All About Jesus” and I’ve been thinking about this concept for a while now. (That’s what happens to me, I hear something I like and it rattles around in my head until I feel like I’ve shared it with enough people, thus the blogging outlet…)
So here’s what has come of this thought that “it’s all about Jesus”. The questions it makes me ask are numerous including: What is included “all?” Does this mean that my job in the Marine Corps is suppose to be about Jesus? What about my “free time?” And am I living like my life is all about Jesus? How about the Bible, and books like Numbers and Leviticus, is that all about Jesus? And here’s the question I think I’ve thought about the most and even postulated an answer to: “If it’s ALL about Jesus, what was Jesus all about???”
So you can see how something like this gets stuck in my brain right?
My answer to my own question is simple, I believe Jesus was all about relationships! And I mean MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS!!! Just look at His interaction with people, specifically His 12 disciples, and more specifically His closest 3 that He spent even more time with, not to mention the time He spent focused on the relationship with His Father (See John 17) And what really takes this to the next level is that even His death and resurrection was about restoring us into a right relationship with God, and giving us the power to maintain a relationship with Him though the Holy Spirit.
To me, the bottom line of all these questions and all these thoughts is this: if everything is really all about Jesus (and I believe it is) and Jesus is really all about relationships (and I believe He is) then I need to get serious about relationships, and doing everything I can to make them meaningful.
I hope this encourages my friends to do the same — every day provides 24 hours of opportunities to elevate the level of communication!
Understand Jesus
I’m reading through my “World Magazine” and I have more books on my reading list than I can count, but this one interested me enough to write a blog post about it and talk about Jesus some more. I didn’t write yesterday because I was hanging out with some other pilots on this trip that I’ll write about next week – maybe, but it’s good to take a day off from blogging, as I’m sure all bloggers know!
So in this book review, the author Christopher Wright says that the best answer to the hard questions in the Old Testament concerning God’s command to wipe out the evil people is to “emphasize seeing Christ in the OT”… Joshua (Jesus) – Yehoshua in Hebrew – means “Yahweh saves.” He mentions the book of Joshua in the Bible and how it foreshadows the Gospel of Christ.
One of the problems I see in our society and in the church is a lack of understanding Jesus. We say things like WWJD, and I even heard someone ask the question “What Would Jesus Eat?” when talking about how some Christians don’t eat healthy… While I think that considering what Jesus’ response would be in every situation is a very good goal, I don’t think it can be done well without much study on Who Jesus IS. (notice I didn’t say was) But in order to get this understanding, a person has to be willing to consider that Jesus is included throughout the Old Testament, that He really lived and died and rose again for you, and that He’s coming back some day soon!
I believe that unless you’re at least willing to consider those things, it’s basically pointless to consider what He might do in any particular situation… Whether it’s an entrée choice, or a business decision, or a relationship to pursue; unless you know Jesus, how can you really know what He might do? And why ask the question of what He might do unless you really want to know Him? Paul had this in mind when he prayed for the church in Colossians. And the wisest man Solomon encouraged understanding when he wrote to his son as well. (Proverbs ch 2 & 4)
And anybody who is married, and trying to do This, knows that it doesn’t happen over night… it takes time and effort and patience!
I pray more people who think about Jesus will desire to understand Him as well; He wants to be known so that we can know His Father, and I want what He wants too, even if I fall short in doing what He would do!
peace,
Adam